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Op-Ed: More Conversation, Less Confrontation

by RestonNow.com March 13, 2018 at 10:15 am 87 Comments

This is a commentary from Eric Carr in response to an editorial published on March 9. It does not reflect the opinion of Reston Now.

Recently on these pages, an editorial appeared attacking me rather personally over a recent episode involving the RA Elections Committee. What struck me is that its author is a man I have never met and, indeed, was not involved in the issue. He did not reach out to express his concerns to me prior to putting pen to paper.  If he had, he would have learned that my concerns had nothing to do with any RA member’s right to an opinion, and everything to do with tone and civility, above all from members of the RA Committee chartered to enforce that very civility.

Reflecting on this has led me to a series of thoughts about the quality and tenor of discourse here in Reston, and I submit them for your consideration.

We have entered a time in our country where attacking people, rather than ideas, has become fashionable. People have become proxy for their positions and we have collectively relinquished our interest in dialogue.

This is all the more puzzling given that the vast majority of us are likeminded on the existential issues we face here in Reston. We almost all agree that we need to preserve our open space, develop our infrastructure before we grow, and band together to advocate for Reston on a bigger stage than ever before. We all want to foster a community where we can live, raise our families, feel safe, embrace all shades of America, be treated fairly, and enjoy the fruits of our labors.

We differ, too. In some cases, we differ on how to achieve these goals, on others how to govern ourselves in pursuit of those goals, and others yet on the relative role that our elected organizations should play in achieving those things on which we agree. That’s healthy, and those are conversations well worth having.

So, I am using this space today to ask a favor: let’s make our conversations contests of ideas, not people. Let’s assume noble intent in those with whom we disagree. Let’s not rush to imagine conspiracy or an intent to hide information or to deceive.

Let’s have more conversations in person, rather than from behind a keyboard or using pseudonyms. Those of you who know me, know my standard response to disagreement: let’s get coffee or a beer and talk about it. Face to face, as Restonians who care deeply about the health of our community.

Thank you for reading this. I look forward to our next conversation.

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  • JohnSmoot

    I read the article, why do you say he is attacking you personally? What am I missing?

  • Willie Reston

    Gentlemen, you can’t fight in here! This is the war room!

  • Kettlecallingpotblack

    Oh pluuuuueeese!

  • PaulA

    Oh wait! Let’s go read Mr. Carr’s Facebook page! Sir, you are unbelievable.

    • Michael Gandolfo

      He seems to not realize all the evidence that proves his claims wrong is right there.

  • Samuel Colbertson

    Mr. Carr,

    You state: “the quality and tenor of discourse here in Reston, and I submit them for your consideration.”

    Where is your personal demonstration of managing the tone and discourse of those commenting on your own Facebook page — https://www.facebook.com/abetterreston/

    On your February 3rd posting, commenters used the phrase “head on a stick” referring to an RA staff member. You are complicit, allowing those comments to fester to this day.

    You sir, in the politest terms, are a hypocrite.

    • Donald

      Samuel, You’re being too kind.

      Yes, Mr. Carr,

      – the majority of the Reston Members are likeminded,
      – the majority of Reston Members pay their assessments without question,
      – the majority of Reston Members don’t even vote,
      – the majority of Reston Members assume things are running smoothly,
      – the majority of Reston Members don’t come here to read these comments,
      – the majority of Reston Members don’t go to your Facebook page,
      – the majority of Reston Members get along beautifully with their neighbors,
      – the majority of Reston Members have no agendas,
      – the majority of Reston Members LOVE RESTON.

      So, may I propose…

      You stop telling us what’s wrong with Reston and start working on talking to the rest of the community about what they like and want more of.

      You stop feeding off the small group of people that got you to your seat, and work for the rest of the Community.

      Donald

    • Samuel Colbertson

      Might I add — those that faithfully accept Mr. Carr’s support are complicit as well. Their silence is, in effect, condoning his actions (lack thereof).

      • Tammy Walker

        I totally agree

  • Sandy

    This coming from the man that talks down to others in meetings, the man that yelled and pointed his finger at the CEO during a meeting( Oct or Nov, the one in regard to tennis) almost out of his chair yelling “I said thou shalt not” in front of a room full of children and members, upsetting one of them to the point of tears. This is coming from the man that I’ve emailed a number of times and have yet to get a response. This coming from the man that attacks members via social media for asking questions. I asked a question via social media in this forum, you attacked me, when I in no way attacked your character or spoke ill of you. You never once offered to speak with me and have yet to respond to ANY of my emails or calls. I’m tired of Board members stating they want to listen and have conversations with members yet you do NOT return calls, do NOT read or respond to emails, seem preoccupied during member comments, don’t seem to listen to member input, don’t answer direct questions, etc. I feel this article insults our intelligence.

    • GrowUpManBaby

      Sandy- didn’t you know? Eric wants a “better Reston” per the Kitchen Cabinet view point. So, if you’re John Lovaas, Irwin Flashman, John Farrell, Tammie Patrine, Terry Maynard and more recently, Sherri Hebert, Victoria White, John Bowman, Ed Abbott and who ever else is in the club promoting the 4 for Reston then its all good.

      • Sandy

        Thank you for breaking down how that works for me. It just baffles me at the hypocrisy of some of these Board members. They say they are for member input and dialogue, yet they could care less. This article is just a slap in the face. People say attend Board meetings and comment, and when you do this, they talk among themselves, are looking at their phones/tablets, don’t address your comment/answer your question, act as if they are irritated and need you to hurry up, because “we have a schedule”, etc. Yet certain members are given more than 3minutes, are asked questions and asked to come up, are listened to, comments and concerns are addressed on spot, etc.

        Then they say call and email the Board members and when the “average” member does this their emails are never responded to or read and calls NEVER returned. People say you just have to ask the Board the hard questions, well as a member I try, but its hard if you aren’t responded back to and ignored. How can the average member know what’s going on if the Board ignores them? I’ve been in meetings where they admit (Carr, White, Moody) they haven’t read any of he email comments. I’ve also been in a meeting where Ganesan told a member that was interviewing for elections committee to answer the question again, because he wasn’t listening.

        This article is laughable because it written by a man that belittles people/members that don’t agree with him or questions him on a regular basis. Just check how he answered my question on a previous post when I asked about the Lake House loan in a very concerned respectful way. I was attacked by him, yet he never answered the question. Jill came in and answered very politely for him

    • Mel Bush

      I tried to find the clip with yelling at CEO from Oct/Nov. Can you help with what time mark the clip starts?

      • Sandy

        I will have to go back and watch the video tonight. I can say it’s in the November meeting because I was there to speak in favor of the maintenance of the ball fields with my child. I know it was before some opposing moving funds spoke. After the back and forth a few of us bowed out of commenting(nerves got the best) There where some upset parents in the audience after the exchange and there was one that was upset/crying…..that I noticed. I can understand him being upset/feeling strongly, but he should of took a few breaths before commenting. This is one reason I’m surprised at this article.

      • Donald

        It was the infamous ”we are not in the afterscool business” At about 1hr/19min mark. Ms. White was standing on top of her pulpit too.

        Donald

        • Conservative Senior

          Thanks for posting the video. I am not in favor of any type of special assessment. Let those die hard tennis players contribute.

        • cRAzy

          RA should NOT be in the after school business as Mr. Carr says. What don’t you like? that he said it? that you don’t agree with it? that he was articulate and straight forward?

          • Donald

            Why don’t we let everyone watch the video and make up their own minds.

            Donald

        • Tetra Troll

          The rank insubordination by the former CEO demonstrated in the referenced portion of this video ought to make clear why she is no longer the CEO.

          The Board in the immediately previous meeting had clearly directed that the budget not include an after-school program and yet the budget that the CEO wanted the Board to adopt had an after-school program slipped into it.

          That she lasted another 90 days is remarkable reflects how carefully the Board acted to avoid any frivolous claims by the CEO against RA after her leave-taking.<!–
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          The annoyance by the Board members at the CEOs attempt to sneak a program that benefited 19 families (one of whom was an RA staff member!) back into the budget is more than justified. Their restraint is admirable.

          Mooney's rambling unfocused attempt to resurrect the after-school program after the vote to kill the program (again) was worthy of Ray Wadell and should embarrass everyone who voted for Mooney.

          • Donald

            Rank insubordination?

            Donald

  • Jillian Morris

    Uhhh–Eric, you might want to ask RestonNow to take this down. It’s not going to go well for you. You have a LOT of air time, Reston Association Board Meetings on YouTube where you’re acting like the rude, aggressive, jerk that you are.

    • Donald

      Jillian, you’re thoughts are admirable, sound and empathetic.

      But, Mr. Carr’s Op Ed needs to remain. He needs to know how the Community, as a whole, thinks about his views.

      Donald

    • Why do you bother?

      No, let it stand. It is informative of who Mr. Carr is.

  • Tammy Walker

    For someone that has a history of attacking others and yelling during meetings you have a lot of nerve. It’s amazing how you can dish it out Mr. Carr in the name of being “passionate”, but can’t take it when you’re questioned. If you can’t answer the hard questions, take criticism, can’t get along with others that don’t agree with you, and are not willing to hear others point of view without attacking them or trying to do them harm, then Director Carr why are you a member of the Board? Please stop playing the victim, because victim you are not! Why would he contact you, knowing your history? You are not a nice person to those that don’t see eye to eye with you Mr. Carr. This article just proves how hyper sensitive you are when you’re challenged…….or not challenged. This article does more harm to your cause and to the candidates you’re endorsing than it does good.

    • Ray Wedell

      A very big “amen” to this commentary, Tammy.

      • Why do you bother?

        Mr Wedell, you’re not doing yourself any favors by chiming in with flippant remarks. As a candidate, show some maturity and integrity by
        disengaging in the snipe war and let Mr. Carr sink himself. It seems that he is more than capable of doing so.

        • Ray Wedell

          You have a point. Thank you.

  • cRAzy

    I see a lot of personal attacks here, not opposition to his message.

    Apparently Mr. Carr didn’t make his point clear enough for these trolls.

    • guest

      Director Carr stated ” attacking me rather personally ” in his message. I went back and read the article in question two more times. I didn’t see one personal attack in the article. Can you please point out where Mr. Carr was attacked in that article personally? I also see a mixture of comments in this comment section and they all see to point to HIS bad behavior on HIS social media page and during meeting. If Mr. Carr does not want to be attacked, he should not attack others. From what I’m reading here, these are not personal attacks, but facts. My hope is that he’ll read them and try to correct some of the issues members have with him. His behavior is a matter of public record via You Tube, Facebook, and Reston Now. His mistake was feeling the need to post this article as if he hasn’t attacked others. Can you also point out to me where he’s also being attacked for things that are not true? If he didn’t want to be questioned publicly he should not have written an article for a public forum and opened himself for comments. Don’t attack others and then state you want to sit down with members and have a conversation.

      I have yet to see a comment for him from someone that disagrees with him where he says, thanks for your comment. Let’s sit and talk about it. Now out of nowhere we get an article about this is his belief, only after another article was written. This is not sincere

      • cRAzy

        I would say remarks about his perceived “behavior” are personal. I still haven’t seen anyone question his ideas.

        • Pauline D

          How can anyone argue with the ideas? It’s him complete hypocrisy that people are pointing out.

        • guest

          He stated that he was attacked personally in the other article…..he was not. He did not state that this article was about his ideas and how he would like to implement these ideas moving forward. This article states that he actively engages members in a non confrontation and that he always tells those that do not agree with him to sit down with him and have coffee. These are not the truth and this why people have a problem with this article. These are not “perceived” behaviors. All one has to do is watch a meeting for confirmation.

          If these are ideas and he wants to now implement them, I wish he would of explained that better in the article. I for one, 100% support the type of dialogue he’s speaking about in this article and would support him implementing it…….he needs to acknowledge his wrong behavior before I think people will be ever to see him in another light

      • Michael Gandolfo

        For Mr. Carr, questioning any decision he makes is a personal attack. He wants everyone to stay in line.

  • Business as usual

    Taken one out of the national socialist playbook: sing a nice tune then do exactly the opposite.

  • guest

    Director Carr states in his article ” attacking me rather personally ” in regard to the commentary from Bill Krieger. I went back and read the article two more times. I didn’t see one personal attack in the article. Can someone please point out where Mr. Carr was attacked in that article personally? Thank you

    • tattler

      He wasn’t.

    • Ray Wedell

      My dad used to call it “thin skin”.

  • Bernie Supporter

    ERIC CARR so supports – Ganesan, Bowman,Johnson and Petrine (The Frightful Four Against Reston) — and is SO DESPERATE to get his “LOCKED IN” MAJORITY — that he now CROSSES A SECOND LINE. He now LIES ABOUT KREIGER’S recent OP ED PIECE.

    The first THREE paragraph’s of the Krieger Op-Ed piece are simple STATEMENTS OF FACTS, INCLUDING ATTRIBUTION. (“According to Gandolfo, Carr…) And Kreiger’s FOURTH paragraph begins by ACTUALLY DEFENDING YOU, you nitwit. “(Gandolfo’s) speech was as VALID and PROTECTED as Eric Carr endorsing candidates.” That’s called journalistic integrity — but you have no clue about integrity

    But wait! Kreiger then expresses his OPINION in an OP-ED piece. (Oh, how dare he?) His opinion was that you, Mr. Carr, abused your position as a current board member by contacting Gandolfo’s Chair (so that something could be done about him.) Why do I add that last part about you wanting something done about Gandolfo? BECAUSE THERE’S NO OTHER LOGICAL REASON TO GET IN TOUCH WITH HIS CHAIR.

    So tell us, Mr. Carr, if you did NOT want action taken against Mr. Gandolfo, WHY DID YOU contact his Chair? Was it to shoot the breeze? Invite him out for Starbucks? Schedule lunch? What other reason than forcing Gandolfo to tow your line did you have for approaching Mr. Gandolfo’s committee chair?

    You are a little man who RETALIATES against people who disagree with you. You have abused your position as a board member. And you are now trying to JAM OUR BOARD WITH YOUR FOUR PUPPET CANDIDATES so you can stifle all debate on issues before the board. MR. CARR, IF YOU HAD ANY INTEGRITY, YOU WOULD RESIGN YOUR SEAT IMMEDIATELY.

    • cRAzy

      Thank you Arlene for absolutely NOTHING.

      • Tammy Walker

        I didn’t see a comment from Arlene. Did they take it down? I can’t seem to view it.

        • Ray Wedell

          Tammy, seems the “Kitchen Cabinet” surrogates are at it again with their phony monikers…..then projecting that everyone else behaves as they do……wrong again.

          • Tammy Walker

            Thank you, Ray for the explanation. Its a sad day when people result to such antics. Again, thank you for clarifying.

    • Roger

      Come on, RAY! You’re a former member of the Board and a current candidate. Come clean and use your real name!

      • Ray Wedell

        Hi Roger. I am here. And I always use my real name.

    • Ray Wedell

      Everyone please remember this simple fact….Mr. Carr says we need to elect his preferred slate of four in order to “finish the job.” Need I say more?

      • cRAzy

        Please don’t.

  • 40yearsinreston

    another storm in a teacup
    The egos have the floor

  • tattler

    Eric – The vast majority of us are likeminded on the existential issues surrounding YOU!

  • Sandy

    Mr. Carr, I’ve contacted you a number of times via email and social media and NOT ONCE have you offered to sit down and speak with me over coffee. You have attacked me(over a non confrontational question in a non confrontation manner) via this site and have yet to answer my emails. So, please don’t be surprised when I tell you I don’t believe some of the statements in this article

    • Michael Gandolfo

      That is his style. I asked two questions, non-confrontational (they are still on his Facebook page, anyone can read them) and that is what set off this chain of events. Mr. Carr views any questions as a personal attack. He wants everyone to follow him unquestioningly.

      If all this proves anything it is that Mr. Carr needs to resign immediately.

      • Donald

        Board leadership is inexcusably silent as well.

        Donald

  • Ray Wedell

    Funny how anyone who opposes certain people’s ideas or actions is accused of “attacking”. From a main attacker himself, no less. I have plenty of disagreements on Mr. Carr’s ideas and this current Board’s operational style. He has yet to accept a one-on-one debate with me on any of it. I plan to stay on the issues, and if that means certain people who supported an issue I do not support takes it personally, then that’s just the way it goes. The people want to hear truth and the back stories, Eric. Sorry.

  • Paul

    I like what he has to say, and I like the 4 for Reston slate…voted for them…twice.

    Dilly dilly!

    • Donald

      Damn, guess we cancelled each other out.

      Que sera sera.

      Donald

  • Ray Wedell

    Does this still make Eric the favorite when Board votes as next President and VP on the first night? The Fearsome Foursome will likely vote that way.

    • Donald

      A very good question. If the four win, the probability is very high.

      Again, this is the issue with a majority-block in place.

      Donald

    • Sally Says

      OMG. That’s an awful thought! Followed by this: If Shridar Ganesan loses will they try to “appoint” him Treasurer!?!

      • Bernie Supporter

        Are you saying that even if the FRIGHTFUL FOUR — Bowman, Ganesan, Johnson & Petrine — LOSE the election, we’re STILL STUCK WITH GANESAN??? What is WRONG with our board? Do they really have SO LITTLE RESPECT for RA members that even if we show them with our votes that WE DON’T WANT GANESAN AROUND, they will SHOVE HIM DOWN OUR THROATS???? Really? Is there no way to PREVENT THIS????

        • John Higgins

          The treasurer is elected (by a vote of the board) for a one year term as each new board is seated.

  • Judith Andersen

    Good idea! There shouldn’t even have been a need to express it.

  • RestonGrandma

    I got my ballot and information from RA and I have no idea who to vote for. Everybody says they want to do good for Reston; I looked for those who were against the Tetra purchase which I voted against but other than that, I don’t know who to vote for. I don’t follow all the drama with the Board; how do I decide?

    • Big decision

      My advice: pick young, fresh faces. Ignore the intro if its more than one page. And pray lots.

      • guest

        I also like John Pinkman( along with 2 of the youngest faces), he’s an old face, but has done a lot for the community and for the children here in Reston. He’s active in attending all county meetings and fighting for our open space and keeping the development out. I know a lot of people don’t agree with him over the Lake House issue, but I have to say I think a lot of the members were misled. It’s a shame that he’s being condemned on this forum about the Lake House, because he has done so much for this community.

        I totally agree with the statement “pray lots”

        • And you

          May the Lord be with you.

          • guest

            Why thank you! Have a wonderful night and rest of the week

    • Tammy Walker

      I would suggest watching the forum and reading over the candidate statements. You could also just email the candidates and ask them the tough questions that concern and affect you. I vote for someone that you feel best represents the community and you, based on the questions you ask, their candidate statements, and the public forums that are posted on the RA site and You Tube. I would also look into what candidates are outsiders, shaking up the same old same old and who have done a lot for/in our community besides just sit on the Board.

      On a personal note(my opinion) I would also watch the meetings and look at how the Directors treat the members, answer and address their questions/concerns, and see what they advocate and feel strongly about during the meetings. Hope this helps. Have a great night

      • Donald

        RestonGrandma,

        I agree with Tammy. Your vote is as important as mine, so do your own due diligence. Reach out to the candidates, review their videos, watch the board meetings (go back and view them over the last few years). I’d also talk about this with friends, neighbors and the various Reston partners.

        Donald

      • cRAzy

        ..

        • Tammy Walker

          Your comment did not show up. Can you please repost so I can view? I’d appreciate that very much. Thank you. If it was an accident and you weren’t replying to me that’s fine, I just wanted to make sure I didn’t miss anything directed at me. Thanks again

      • RestonGrandma

        Thanks Tammy that helps!

    • 40yearsinreston

      dont vote for anyone with realestate or Hudgens connections

  • Amy Sue

    This is a very strange Op-ed….. Seems more like a petty personal issue than something that should be in a local community website….

  • Samuel Colbertson

    Mr. Carr,

    It has been 24 hours since you had this Op Ed posted to Reston Now. I still have not seen any action on your part to take responsibility for the comments on your “abetterreston” Facebook page. These comments have been there for over a month now. Where is your leadership?

    You ask for everyone else to take some responsibility for their dialogues — what about you sir.

  • Michael Gandolfo

    Mr. Carr, you need to resign immediately. You’re example of “leadership” is a disgrace to Reston. Evidence of your claims of being attacked are easily proven false by looking at your Facebook page. Yet, you double down.

  • John Higgins

    I can’t leave you kids alone for a week without you getting into some form of new trouble. Let’s replay the key issues. On social media, Mr. Carr, a sitting director, explicitly endorses a candidate and indirectly endorses others. Nothing technically wrong there, but many people view it as perhaps inappropriate. Let’s move on.

    Also posting on social media is a member of the Elections Committee, challenging Mr. Carr as to the source of funds used to pay off the Lake House loan. The lines are a bit blurrier. Mr. Carr is not standing for election and the pay-off does is a member issue outside the election. But few people miss the obvious: Mr. Carr’s positive opinion of the pay-off is supportive of positions taken by at least three candidates. We don’t need to know why the committeeman raised his challenge to Mr. Carr, it is enough to observe it has a strong implication in the dispute between competing candidates. So-called “rights” notwithstanding, members of this committee should stand as far away as possible in public from discussions being debated in campaigns. These committee members may have to rule on a complaint by or against candidates; the public perception of their independence should not be eroded.

    Two committeemen complained that Mr. Carr took his concerns to the committee chair. Well, they have a point. RA has a fairly clear policy that individual directors are not to engage the press, the staff, and committees…they are to bring issues to the president who initiates any appropriate action. Then we hear of the committee chair communicating admonitions. I’m prepared to give her a pass on this one time, but a better practice would be to have a chat with the president first, then convene the committee to better define boundaries before the board defines them for the committee.

    Next we see two committee resignations on principle. Understandable from one perspective, I’m personally not happy. It was hasty and as a consequence they were not able to explore the issue and reach the best resolution. When you walk away, you are taken out of the game…at just the time when alternative views might be needed.

    Several people here have observed that Mr. Carr imagines “personal attacks” in an earlier op-ed and on his Facebook page. Maybe. I’m not sure how one can see as anything but personal being called a hypocrite (i.e., one who engages in hypocrisy); accused of malfeasance in office; and being offered the choice a statement being labeled fact or a lie (ignoring the possibility of error or misunderstanding).

    And I’m not happy with the folks who are so damned sure of themselves (in areas where they have far from all the facts in front of them) who have driven candidates from delivering their messages here or engaging in dialogue during the campaign. I’m of the opinion that If you have something to say, say it…but put your name on it and have the integrity to stand behind your words.

    • Bernie Supporter

      Must not be happy with yourself, John. Nowhere in Kreiger’s Op-Ed was Carr “personally attacked” or called a “hypocrite”. Yet you’re “so damned sure” of yourself in an area where you are far from the facts in front of you. A reminder: Here’s what Kreiger really said: (Emphasis in all caps mine, not Kreigers)

      “In my opinion, (Carr) used his influence as a current board member -not as an individual -to take Michael to task with his committee chair. I BELIEVE HE ABUSED HIS POSITION and for that reason, frankly, he should either be censured by the board, resign his office, or be voted out of office the next time he runs.

      Eric Carr’s behavior, to me, personifies the FEARS of some Restonians regarding the candidates he is actively supporting – Bowman, Ganesan, Johnson and Petrine. These four candidates are running as a slate calling itself “4 for Reston.” FOR SOME, THE MATH IS TROUBLING. A slate of four fortified by even one current board member in lockstep CAN EASILY TRANSLATE INTO A GUARANTEED MAJORITY, or what some Reston Now readers are calling “group think.” They rightly fear the creation of a board with a built-in majority that has the potential to rob the RA Board of all debate and independence when important issues come before it. AND NOW A SECOND SLATE of candidates appears.”

      So is the “personal attack” that Kreiger thinks carr abused his position by going over Gandalfo’s head to his committee chair? OMG! YOU NOW “PERSONALLY ATTACK” CARR, TOO! Because you say,

      “Well, they have a point. RA HAS A FAIRLY CLEAR POLICY THAT INDIVIDUAL DIRECTORS ARE NOT TO ENGAGE the press , the staff, and COMMITTEES…they are to bring issues to the president who initiates any appropriate action.”

      “Hypocrite” “MalfesanceI’ ‘Lies” — I don’t see Kreger saying anything like that in the article he wrote.Your post is nothing more than a LAME DEFENSE OF CARR whose actions against a committee volunteer is INDEFENSIBLE.

      That leaves me thinking that you are an active supporter of the FRIGHTFUL FOUR against RESTON –Ganesan, Bowman, Johnson and Petrine. Kreger says some restonians are afraid of the FRIGHTFUL FOUR being elected. Well, duh! You’d have to be insane NOT to be. Carr + 4 = instant majority.

      And talk about hypocracy. You say “members of this committee should stand as far away as possible in public from discussions being debated in campaigns.” Are you saying that issues being debated in campaigns DON’T COME UP BEFORE THE BOARD? That’s nuts, too!

      When talking about Carr, you say, “Let’s move on.” But when talking about Gandalfo, you say “WE DON’T NEED TO KNOW WHY the committeeman raised his challenge to Mr. Carr,” Really???? Seems to me that was the whole point of what happened.

      And then you TWIST what’s said and take a GIANT LEAP OF LOGIC AND PRESENT IT AS TRUTH: “it is enough to observe it has a strong implication in the dispute between competing candidates.”

      What????? Gandalfo’s beef with Carr had nothing to do with the candidates. I wish it did. Because personally I think that –Ganesan, Bowman, Johnson and Petrine – the FRIGHTFUL FOUR against Reston — are the WORST election choices RA ever had. Especially BOWMAN, who a boulder-sized chip on his shoulder and sneered his way through his debate (check out the RA video) as if RA members owe him the seat, and competing for it is beneath him.

    • Sandy

      Mr. Carr knows who I am(because I’ve contacted him numerous times via email and social media) and I’ve stated my name next to my comments. I have not once attacked him or asked of him confrontational questions. Over a 6 month period he has yet to return a call, email, or invite me to coffee. And my questions were in regard to open space……..an issue we agree on and a program. I’ve even attended meetings and voiced my concerns and I have yet to get a response or a follow up. If you read my messages below each comment is a fact and not an attack. Then I read this article stating……….

      Why are you defending his behavior? If he was so concerned about being attacked, why did he not address the person personally as he stated in the article the other gentleman should of done? If he doesn’t believe in attacks, why does he attack members for asking questions in this forum(go back and read some of the messages) and come off confrontational at meetings? Also, again he has yet to respond or ask me out for coffee and I’ve emailed him 3 times since this was written in regard to my open space and program question. So is he lying in this article?

      • John Higgins

        Sandy, see my response to “Guest”…I put out no defense of Mr. Carr. Several people commented that there have been no personal attacks. What you read from me was not a defense of anything except accuracy. Now, if you don’t think that being publicly called a hypocrite and malfeasant doesn’t qualify as attacks, fine, let’s just disagree on that point.

        • Sandy

          I went back and read the article. I didn’t see anywhere in that article from March 9, where Carr was personally attacked. Mr. Carr stated in the 1st lines of this article that he was attacked personally in the op ed(by the writer), yet I’ve read it several times and fail to see where he was called the names you stated or personally attacked by Kreiger in the article. Can you please point out to me where in the article he was personally attacked or called the names you stated in your comment?

          If you’re speaking in regard to all the comments, then Mr. Carr should also go to his page and take down all the disturbing comments listed on his page in regard to RA staff. He also should of personally spoke to Gandolfo about the post privately over coffee instead of demeaning him on his Facebook page after all this is what he states should be done in this article.

          • John Higgins

            Sandy, you are right on one point. I was mistaken. I see now that Mr. Kreiger referred to the chair of the Elections Committee, not Mr. Carr, as taking a position of inherent hypocrisy. As to the other point, I refer to paragraph 4 of the op-ed: “He used his influence…abused his position”, to the point the author called for censure. That’s a strong charge. We have virtually no information as to what was said to the committee chair or what Mr. Carr attempted to influence. (Subtle point: I was not speaking of “name calling” – my observation was that I can understand how someone may feel personally attacked if they are described, without reasonable detailed support, as misbehaving in office.)

        • Samuel Colbertson

          Mr. Higgins, I will gladly apologize for my calling Mr. Carr a hypocrite.

          But, Mr. Carr must take some amount of responsibility himself, for the comments made by two of his supporters on his official Facebook page “Eric Carr for a Better Reston”. These individuals commented on his February 3rd post using the statement “head on a stick” aimed directly at Reston Association’s CEO, Cate Fulkerson and the staff.

          Mr. Carr is a Reston Association Board Director. The position comes with a certain amount of responsibility and professionalism — none of which are being demonstrated here.

          An apology to Ms Fulkerson and staff is the right thing to do. At least go on to the Facebook page and tone down the discourse – something he professes in his Op Ed.

          If Mr. Carr does nothing, then I must continue to say – “beware of the person with two faces”.

    • guest

      Mr. Higgins what does the quote ” I’m prepared to give her a pass on this one time” mean? What happens the next time? Are you in the hiring and firing business? Do you have the power to take action against her? I didn’t read where you stated you’re giving Carr “a pass this one time”.

      Are you saying that committee members that live here are barred from asking questions of the Board and candidates? He should have the right to ask any question as a resident. How can he be faulted for asking a question as a resident that is also a committee member, yet on his Board page he actively supports candidates? I didn’t see where he slandered or attacked anyone. He is also not openly campaigning for anyone and he is not the counting agent. So, I’m trying to figure out what the problem was.

      This has been a LONG STANDING PROBLEM with RA. Staff and Committee members being shut down and not being allowed to speak out, ask questions, or let residents know what is happening. This just proves what happens when a committee member or staff member speaks out or questions the Board,,,,,they loose their job, they make it hard for their supervisor, or they make their work environment very difficult to push them out. Yes, you can work and volunteer for RA just don’t question the Board or RA practices.

      • John Higgins

        What did I mean by giving “a pass”? First, I didn’t see the email the chair sent to committee members, so this was benefit-f-the-doubt situation. As a leader, she was encouraging the committee to keep a lower profile during the election. Of course you and I do not have any power here, except the power of acerbic comments, which I choose to withhold based on such little info.

        I didn’t give Mr. Carr as pass because the important facts were clear and I think all sitting directors should be aware of the board’s policies. My criticism was simply that making contact directly with committee chairs is not acceptable within the board, regardless of what you or I might think of it.

    • guest

      Mr. Carr was wrong to contact the chair, he did this for a reason……to make sure Mr. Gandolfo was reprimanded for questioning him. So, please don’t act as if Carr is innocent. Carr should of taken his own advice and contacted Mr. Gandolfo for coffee instead of contacting the chair.

      This has been a LONG STANDING PROBLEM with RA. Staff and Committee members being shut down and not being allowed to speak out, ask questions, or let residents know what is happening. This just proves what happens when a committee member or staff member speaks out or questions the Board,,,,,they loose their job, they make it hard for their supervisor, or they make their work environment very difficult to push them out. Yes, you can work and volunteer for RA just don’t question the Board or RA practices or you will pay with your job and reputation.

  • Sandy

    Ms. Waseem, why are my comments “awaiting moderation” below( a reply to John Higgins)? If you read the comment, I didn’t use any foul language, name call, etc. Is there a reason for this? Thank you

    • Sandy

      My comment was removed. Is there a reason why? I did not break the rules with my comment

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